So a couple of days ago, 41 year-old Jonathan Rowan shot and killed Rebecca Griego, 26, while she was in her office at the University of Washington, where she was the Program Director for the Architecture Department. She had done everything right. She’d taken out a restraining order which required him to stay at least 1,000 feet away from her. He’d threatened her sister, and her sister had taken out a similar restraining order. She had moved several times, had stopped answering her phone, and had worked at home for a month so he wouldn’t be able to find her at work. She had circulated his picture and let her coworkers and campus security know she was being stalked and that they should watch out for Rowan.
Nevertheless, Rowan, who took up with Griego when she was 19 years old and he was 33, walked into the building where she worked, shot her dead, then shot himself. Police say he had multiple IDs and multiple passports. He had told friends he couldn’t return to England, where he was born, because he was wanted there and would be killed. He was only employed occasionally.
In my town, Gig Harbor, 62 year old “John Williams,” not his real name, wanted for sexual assault, attempted murder and kidnapping in Oregon, unbeknownst to Turi Bentley, 66, who was his “girlfriend”, this week shot Bentley dead, then shot himself, and topped off his murder spree by shooting a man in his 40s, whom he had once described as his “best friend” and who tried to intervene in ”Williams” abuse of Bentley. The man is in the hospital in critical condition.
“Williams” was a conman and liar and Bentley never knew it. She had lived in small, quiet Gig Harbor for years, had children and grandchildren. She and her murderer had recently moved into Bentley’s mother’s house, on the same street Bentley had lived for years. And, Bentley had money. “Williams” had none. He claimed to be all sorts of things — retired naturopath, pastor. He had a box full of fake ID’s in his attic. Bentley met him through multi-level marketing work selling health products, either online or at a conference. Friends described Bentley as a good woman taken in by a really bad man.
Yesterday, Arthur Mann, in his 30s, walked into the CNN offices in Atlanta, picked a fight with Clara Riddles, 22, his “girlfriend,” who was pregnant, grabbed her by the hair, pulled her into an elevator and when she resisted, screaming and crying, he shot her in the head at point-blank range. He was shot, in turn, by a security guard but survived and is in the hospital. Coworkers say the girlfriend was a quiet woman who never told anybody she was being abused.
Take a close look. These are men, murdering women they claim to “love,” then offing themselves because what’s a life without your prized possession, your prized piece of furniture, your cash cow, your meal ticket? What gets to me? The headlines: “Two dead in domestic dispute.” “Two shot and killed in murder-suicide.” “Shootings leave two dead.”
Say what? Two are not “dead.” Two are not “left dead.” THREE MEN MURDERED THREE WOMEN THEY CLAIMED TO LOVE.
The efforts to obscure the facts of who did what to whom are horrifying and despicable. These are men. Killing women. One of the men, “Williams,” had previously tried to kill another woman, and she was hiding from him in Oregon.
Women almost never kill men. When there is a “domestic dispute” and someone gets killed, it’s almost guaranteed to be a woman. Where there is a murder-suicide, look for a man, killing a woman, because he can’t have his way with her.