An Amber Alert was issued Friday for the nine-month-old son of Tina Marie Carlsen. Carlsen was said to have taken her baby, who was "not in her custody," from a local children's hospital where he was scheduled for surgery.
The moment I heard about this "alert" I was skeptical, because so little information was provided. The public was told that the baby was "gravely ill," and "would die" without surgery, without being provided with any specifics as to the illness. There were also no specifics listed as to why the child was not in his mother's custody. The only detail of the reported "abduction" of this child by his mother which troubled me was the baby's size; 14 pounds is small for a nine-month old. Then again, it is not unheard of; when I was having my babies, the rule was that your child should double his or her birth weight by six months. If the child was five pounds when he was born, then by this rule, he should have been 10 pounds at six months, so again, 14 pounds, while small, might still be not so small as to give rise to concern.
So the "abducted" child has now been "found." My hunches were correct. This was a dispute over medical care. State child welfare officials took custody of this child because the mother didn't want her tiny baby operated on for a kidney problem; she wanted to seek naturopathic care and alternative treatments instead. Today's newspaper articles say the baby appears to be fine and was not in any distress. The baby's father and relatives all agree that the mother is a good mother and that all she wanted to do was protect her child from being cut open by doctors.
But as of today, his mom, Tina Marie Carlsen, is IN JAIL FOR KIDNAPPING.
You know what?
Fuck you, patriarchal medical establishment, and again I say, fuck you. And fuck you, Washington State Child Protective Services, and again I say, fuck you. You are responsible for the deaths of hundreds, probably thousands of babies and children over the years, and yet you would presume to tell this mother what is best for her son, to force your will on her and her child, a child whom everyone agrees does not appear to be in any imminent danger, who appears to be fine.
Here's what I think. I think you are really feeling the backlash right now of, for one of many examples I could list, having ignored 29 reports of abuse and sexual abuse of three foster and adopted daughters whom I blogged about last week. I think you are feeling the backlash of the horrendously poor job you have been doing, in general, of protecting children from fathers, especially, who batter, sexually abuse, and kill their children. So what the hell do you do? Goddamn you, you arrest a mother for trying to protect her child from medical treatments she is afraid will kill him. AND THEY MIGHT. Women and children in this state, in any state, have NO reason to have faith in the patriarchal medical establishment OR in "child welfare authorities." You hurt, maim and kill us all of the goddamn time.
And as to issuing an "Amber Alert" for this child: that was an ABUSE of the laws created to protect children and their caregivers. The Amber Alert is supposed to be issued for children who have actually been abducted. This was no abduction, this was state agencies and medical authorities run amok, this was smoke and mirrors designed to divert public attention from the REAL abductors and the REAL kidnappers, this was state officials running scared and covering their fucking asses, with NO concern for this mother and her child, and Tina Marie Carlsen is a goddamn HERO.
I just hope she is able to obtain a good lawyer who sues your butts off, but oh, that's right, recent court decisions have provided you with immunity and so you will never pay for the damage that you have done and that you will continue to do.
You are a goddamn joke, except that you are dangerous as all hell to women and children and that is no laughing matter.
This is why I do not darken the door of any patriarchal medical establishment, EVER, with my young children in tow, why I have not for decades and never will and will urge all the mothers I know to follow my example. I have not and will not subject my children, or any children under my care, to your intrusions, your violations and your woman-hating, abuser-protecting policies and practices. You will put your hands on my children over my goddamn dead body. You will not touch them with your hands, your needles, your knives, your medicines, your charts or your paperwork. It's worked SO well for me. I have 11 healthy children who are virtually NEVER ill and have not been over the past 34 years. If I'd done what so many scared mothers do — created trails between my house and your offices worried of being accused of neglect if I didn't subject every sniffle to your examination and your disease- and infection-ridden offices (and your outrageous invoices) — I might well be in jail right now as a kidnapper myself, just like this innocent women.
If you didn't hear me the first time, I'll say it again:
And free Tina Marie Carlsen and her child.