…if we can’t talk about blowjobs under duress or how shaming causes women to do stuff they otherwise wouldn’t, or how the hegemonic viewpoint of what you’re supposed to be doing in bed affects folks lives, what topics about sex are we supposed to be talking about?
She also links to Bitch, Ph.D’s interesting sex threads, one for het women only, one for lesbian women only, and one for men only. Woman-only threads, no matter where someone starts them, and no matter the reason, are always in my opinion so productive and valuable. There are many, many posts which are really hard to read in these threads — forewarned is forearmed — but there are some funny posts, too, and some of the feminist women’s posts are really smart. Threads like this, in my opinion, come about as close to consciousness-raising as we generally get in this day and age.