Mary Winkler, the woman who shot her pastor husband a few months ago and then turned herself in, had been battered and abused by him in every conceivable way, her family and friends say. She increasingly showed up with bruises which makeup did not conceal. He kept her from her family. She didn’t tell when they asked her what was going on. She didn’t tell anybody right away and hasn’t yet, really. Her family is speaking up.