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Today’s Male Terrorism: Community College Daycare in Complete Lockdown After “Boyfriend” Threatens Employee

A daycare center associated with Shoreline Community College north of Seattle has been in complete lockdown for a week after the “boyfriend” of an employee threatened her with violence.  This was no idle threat; the guy has a history of violence and posted bail last Friday after being arrested on a charge of domestic violence.  Police confiscated a gun in that arrest.  The guy also has a history of going on a rampagewith a baseball bat  in the home he shared with his girlfriend and their three children.

To protect the employee and the children in the daycare center, and in light of recent events at Virginia Tech and here in Seattle at the University of Washington, college officials have stationed an armed guard at the door of the center, are keeping doors locked, and anyone wanting entrance to the center must ring a doorbell.  Employees are wearing identifying tags. 

Of interest to me is the response of parents of children in the daycare center, some of whom have pulled their children out, and some of whom have stated they feel the woman who has been threatened should be fired.  Others state they feel all of the children are in immediate danger because of the threats against the employee, despite the additional precautions.  I very much appreciated what the President of Shoreline Community College said to a reporter on the news last night, “We are going to take violence against women seriously.”  

I think it would be completely wrong for this employee to be fired from her job because her boyfriend has threatened her and is violent.    Women who take the risks inherent in letting their supervisors know about situations l ike this deserve to be protected and respected, not fired.  I am also sympathetic to the concerns of parents.  Who knows what this guy might do?  One woman said she is a survivor of domestic violence and empathizes, but still will not bring her child to the center now because she fears for her child.  Those of us who have lived through domestic violence know what these men are capable of doing; parents are understandably fearful, and domestic violence survivors are understandably triggered.   Other parents caught on camera in the news last night say they will continue to bring their children to the Center and will support both the college and the employee.  There are no easy answers in this situation.  It costs everybody.

If this is not male terrorism, then what is it?  The threats of one violent man against his girlfriend because she is leaving him means that 111 children must now be cared for behind locked doors.  It means hiring an armed guard to patrol the entrance.  It means parents must now fear for their children, must find other persons to care for them, must rearrange their lives and schedules and invest additional energy in order to attend parent meetings in order to discuss how they respond to this man’s violent threats, which echo hundreds and thousands and millions of similar threats, and acts, of male violence against women.  

Meanwhile, the guy posts bail and walks.  For him, it’s just another day.

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11 thoughts on “Today’s Male Terrorism: Community College Daycare in Complete Lockdown After “Boyfriend” Threatens Employee

  1. True story. I worked at a hospital in Mississippi 1989-1991. A woman, a new employee started working there. Apparently, she had been a SAHM but had professional credentials and needed to return to work because of a pending divorce. Within the ninety day of probation of working there, her husband had managed to get a 48 hour court ordered psychiatric evaluation, which coincidently placed her in the psych unit of the very hospital she (we) worked at. She “passed” the evaluation; meaning if she did not pass, the court would have extended her stay another seven days or something and reassess her for more time or release her. She came back to work. Then the husband started threatening to come up to her job (our department) and kill her and everyone around her. She told our supervisor, thinking she was preparing them (us). They fired her. They could because within the first ninety days an employee can be let go without a reason. About six months later, I saw her in K-mart and she cursed me out. I was speechless because I had never been involved in any of it and only learned about most of it after she was fired and did speak up about how wrong it all was. But I guess she saw me as one of people who fired her. She had custody of her son and without a job, the husband was trying to prove she could not provide for him.

    Posted by chasingmoksha | April 25, 2007, 5:15 pm
  2. At least the daycare center is standing by her — for now, let us hope it continues, for her sake. It is not her fault that he is a terrorist.

    Why on earth can they not re-arrest him for threats or something?

    Posted by stormy | April 25, 2007, 5:37 pm
  3. Stormy, they did arrest him, but he made bail. 😦

    Posted by womensspace | April 25, 2007, 5:39 pm
  4. He’s due in Court next Tuesday, not sure what that hearing is about.

    chasingmoksha, what a sad story! The way these things have gone, in my experience, is the woman stays stoic, protects herself the best she can, tries to live normally, and the guy hounds her, keeps coming around to the job, stalking her, hanging around outside. Eventually he makes a scene and then she gets fired. I’ve seen that happen several times in my life. Women with regular jobs have it really bad when they are trying to leave a batterer, they are just so easy to find and get to. 😦


    Posted by womensspace | April 25, 2007, 5:43 pm
  5. Heart, I don’t know anything much about your US laws, but even if out on bail, if he continues to threaten, then that is (in the UK) regarded as ‘a new offence’ and can be arrested on the new charge. That’s what I meant.

    Actually, that is how it is supposed to happen in UK law, but rarely do they take the continued threats of abusers seriously until he kills someone. Then it’s all “how could we have predicted that?”.

    My ex was still happily phoning in the death threats (recorded by me) exactly one week after receiving a “bindover to keep the peace” (I guess a good behaviour bond in US terms). They had enough to arrest him on the new charges, and did eventually (they were hardly in any hurry about it).

    As it turned out, even though he was arrested on “threats to kill” it didn’t get any further than a bit of questioning. The abusers first response to the questioning “it wasn’t me”, when his voice played back on tape “it’s not my voice”. Phone records from both ends would have matched if they had bothered to get them – he was stupid enough to use his own mobile. Threats that came later, he used someone else and their phone. Such good mates he has.

    Posted by stormy | April 25, 2007, 5:57 pm
  6. I was just having a conversation with my boss the other day about a woman who worked at his former place of business. The woman was fired because a firearm was found in her car, which was parked on company property, which made it a violation of the employee code of conduct. He seemed to think this sort of zero-tolerance policy for firearms was most reasonable. Of course, the woman was only toting around a firearm because her crazy ex was on a rampage and she feared that he’d track her down. I don’t doubt that if she’d refrained from carrying a weapon, but instead notified her employers of her (and everyone else’s) imminent danger, she’d have been fired anyway.

    Posted by justicewalks | April 25, 2007, 6:07 pm
  7. There *is* an easy answer, but of course it won’t be implemented because of the patriarchy: when a guy does something like this, LOCK HIM UP. Set really high bail or refuse bail and LOCK HIM UP. What part of this is so hard to understand?

    Of course then you get a bunch of whiny apologists talking about “fairness” and “justice” – as if the woman who works there or the children who are cared for there are getting any.

    Posted by Amananta | April 25, 2007, 7:34 pm
  8. Yep. It is the easy answer.
    Not sure how many more women have to die or be seriously injured for them to figure this out.

    Jail/prison works as a deterrent when there isn’t a revolving door.

    Posted by stormy | April 26, 2007, 1:51 am
  9. From the original post: One woman said she is a survivor of domestic violence and empathizes, but still will not bring her child to the center now because she fears for her child. Those of us who have lived through domestic violence know what these men are capable of doing; parents are understandably fearful, and domestic violence survivors are understandably triggered.

    That’s a pretty damning commentary on how the US justice system fails in handling domestic violence issues. Not only was the guy able to do this, no one – particularly people who have been through it themselves – trusts the authorities to handle it properly.

    stormy said: Jail/prison works as a deterrent when there isn’t a revolving door.

    I don’t know if it works as an effective deterrent for the criminal, but it at least protects the community.

    Posted by gingermiss | April 26, 2007, 2:15 am
  10. This could be good news, but I don’t have many details. I just heard of a woman who shot her abusive husband (who had been stalking her and her daughter) six times in the chest and killed him, and she was acquitted and kept her job.

    Now that’s a victory against terrorism!

    Posted by roamaround | April 26, 2007, 2:36 am
  11. I don’t know if this is rally male terorism or just a man who is causing terror, and there is a diffrence. When you say something like male terrorism then it almost implies that all men act like this. And if you think about it isn’t around half of all terrorism going to be male terrorism because it was comitted by a male? Or does it count as male terrorism when it is derected to a woman?

    Posted by Natasha | April 27, 2007, 11:05 pm

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