I have another blog, My Mother is White, which I began in May of 2006. I haven’t posted there for a long time. The abusive, racist comments which are routinely attempted there, combined with a consistently abusive, racist blogosphere — including racists who are self-identified feminists and progressive bloggers — are overwhelmingly de-energizing and demoralizing to me. I don’t need it. I am not really very interested in what racists have to say about my children or my family, to wit:
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I don’t see any reason for you to keep the half-apes around. Maybe you could donate them to a zoo? [ View Post ]
This kind of person regularly shows up there, having slithered out from underneath his or her rock to leave a slime trail.
Anyway, I visited my neglected blog to retrieve a Marilyn Frye quote which has appeared in the sidebar there since I began the blog. It is part of a much longer quote which I used a while back in an article published in off our backs, (Motherhood as the Work of Revolution: On Raising Bi-Racial Children, which you can find in its entirety here.)
Race is a tie that binds us to men: ‘us’ being white women and ‘men’ being white men. If we wish not to be bound in subordination to men, we have to give up trading on our white skin for white men’s race privilege. …if we detach ourselves from reproductive service to white men…the threat we pose is not just to their male selves but their white selves… “…for white women a radical feminism is treacherous to the white race as presently constructed and instituted in this country. The growing willingness of white women to forego the material benefits and ego supports available through connections with white men makes us much harder to contain and control as part of the base of their racial dominance. For many of us resistance to white male domination was first, and quite naturally, action simply for our own release from a degradation and tyranny we hated in and of itself. But in this racial context our pursuit of our liberation… is, whether or not we so intend it, disloyal to Whiteness…”
Marilyn Frye — On Being White: Towards a Feminist Understanding of Race and Race Supremacy, in The Politics of Reality: Essays in Feminist Theory
I posted this because in a certain way, I am throwing down. I will not be mistreated anymore, by anyone, no matter your race (there are plenty of racist persons of color), no matter your politics, and for any reason whatever. I will not be mistreated by feminists, progressives, queer folks, GLBT folks, conservatives or moderates, men or women, on account of racial issues. I will no longer quietly endure racist attacks by any of the above on me or on my children, no matter the form they take, no matter who it is who launches the attacks, and no matter whether they are launching the attacks out of a deluded sincerity or because they are malicious people or because they are bent and broken people. I’m starting with this small post, and I will move on from here as the spirit moves me.
This begins my project of theorizing the unique standpoint of white feminists raising biracial children whom they have birthed from their own bodies.
Don’t bother commenting in a hostile, inflammatory, denigrating, racist, sexist, or otherwise creepy manner. I will blacklist you or send you straight to spam, although if there is good mocking material in your attempted comment, I may first subject it to a sound public mocking.