I have been reading about the resignation of Doug Phillips, a long-time leader in the homeschooling and quiverfull movements, someone I’ve written about here on this blog. In doing so, I’ve come across plenty to be disturbed about. But the following I find beyond disturbing. It is the writing of Doug Wilson, a long-time pastor, author and leader in homeschooling/quiverfull circles and a good friend of Doug Phillips. Phillips sells his books.
I was excommunicated 20 years ago this coming July. When I was a member of this community, while there was much to be concerned about, there was nothing (that I knew of anyway) so egregious as what I’ve read over the past couple of days, this, arguably, being the most egregious of all, written by Wilson:
A final aspect of rape that should be briefly mentioned is perhaps closer to home. Because we have forgotten the biblical concepts of true authority and submission, or more accurately, have rebelled against them, we have created a climate in which caricatures of authority and submission intrude upon our lives with violence.
When we quarrel with the way the world is, we find that the world has ways of getting back at us. In other words, however we try, the sexual act cannot be made into an egalitarian pleasuring party. A man penetrates, conquers, colonizes, plants. A woman receives, surrenders, accepts.
This is of course offensive to all egalitarians, and so our culture has rebelled against the concept of authority and submission in marriage. This means that we have sought to suppress the concepts of authority and submission as they relate to the marriage bed.
But we cannot make gravity disappear just because we dislike it, and in the same way we find that our banished authority and submission comes back to us in pathological forms. This is what lies behind sexual “bondage and submission games,” along with very common rape fantasies. Men dream of being rapists, and women find themselves wistfully reading novels in which someone ravishes the “soon to be made willing” heroine. Those who deny they have any need for water at all will soon find themselves lusting after polluted water, but water nonetheless.
True authority and true submission are therefore an erotic necessity. When authority is honored according to the word of God it serves and protects — and gives enormous pleasure. When it is denied, the result is not “no authority,” but an authority which devours.
This quote was included in a blog post at Love, Joy, Feminism by Libby Anne. She links to the original post and a follow-up post, but the links don’t go anywhere now. That this is the kind of thing that is being thought — believed — much less taught, including to young people, is horrifying. I want to rescue them all. I wish I’d never read this, never seen it. I wish there were something I could do to stand against it meaningfully. It is abusive and sickening.